Hooking Up With No Strings Attached

Hi Girls,

Call me Megan. I'm a junior marketing assistant living in New York. My problem is this: I'm currently involved with the so-called "Friends With Benefits" kind of affair. Let's call my guy, Johnny. Johnny works in the same company that I work for. He's the new public relations manager and have been only around for three months. We instantly hit it off and became "friends" almost immediately. The good thing is, we're both single. Things were doing great the first few weeks, until I started falling for him. It's not really surprising. I mean he's sweet, thoughtful, and lovable. Who wouldn't fall for him? The bad thing, I don't know if he's feeling the same way. And I'm feeling cold feet just the thought of admitting it to him. I'm scared of being rejected by him. What to do? I can really use a good advice right now, girls. Thanks!


Dear Megan,

It's really not a surprise that one of you will fall for the other. You may not be in a real relationship since you've agreed that you're just two consenting adults, hooking up every now and then, and having fun while you're at it. But you're still spending a lot of time together. Whether it's just for sex or just to simply hang out, the chances of being bitten by the love bug is very high. And you fell for him. Now the question is- is he feeling the same way too? The truth is, you'll never really know until you ask him yourself. You said so yourself, he's single. It means that the road to happiness is very clear and there is no obstacle in sight.

The only thing that's keeping you from telling him the truth is your fear of rejection. While we cannot assure you of a positive outcome, we know that pouring your true feelings will let him know what you really feel about him and your arrangement. Ponder on these questions: What if he's also in love with you but he's just afraid to show it? What if he's also afraid of rejection and he doesn't have the courage to tell you how he feels? You know, Megan, men are just like women in so many ways. They also feel insecurity and invulnerability when it comes to love. And sometimes, it is up to us, women, to step up to the plate and take it all to the next level.

What if he doesn't love you back? Then, it's gonna be his loss, not yours. So don't worry your pretty little head about it. Remember that there are still many fishes in the ocean. *wink*

Much Love,

The Girls

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