Hi Girls,
Call me Megan. I'm a junior marketing assistant living in New York. My problem is this: I'm currently involved with the so-called "Friends With Benefits" kind of affair. Let's call my guy, Johnny. Johnny works in the same company that I work for. He's the new public relations manager and have been only around for three months. We instantly hit it off and became "friends" almost immediately. The good thing is, we're both single. Things were doing great the first few weeks, until I started falling for him. It's not really surprising. I mean he's sweet, thoughtful, and lovable. Who wouldn't fall for him? The bad thing, I don't know if he's feeling the same way. And I'm feeling cold feet just the thought of admitting it to him. I'm scared of being rejected by him. What to do? I can really use a good advice right now, girls. Thanks!
Dear Megan,
It's really not a surprise that one of you will fall for the other. You may not be in a real relationship since you've agreed that you're just two consenting adults, hooking up every now and then, and having fun while you're at it. But you're still spending a lot of time together. Whether it's just for sex or just to simply hang out, the chances of being bitten by the love bug is very high. And you fell for him. Now the question is- is he feeling the same way too? The truth is, you'll never really know until you ask him yourself. You said so yourself, he's single. It means that the road to happiness is very clear and there is no obstacle in sight.
The only thing that's keeping you from telling him the truth is your fear of rejection. While we cannot assure you of a positive outcome, we know that pouring your true feelings will let him know what you really feel about him and your arrangement. Ponder on these questions: What if he's also in love with you but he's just afraid to show it? What if he's also afraid of rejection and he doesn't have the courage to tell you how he feels? You know, Megan, men are just like women in so many ways. They also feel insecurity and invulnerability when it comes to love. And sometimes, it is up to us, women, to step up to the plate and take it all to the next level.
What if he doesn't love you back? Then, it's gonna be his loss, not yours. So don't worry your pretty little head about it. Remember that there are still many fishes in the ocean. *wink*
Much Love,
The Girls
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Huwebes, Nobyembre 24, 2011
Of Pride and Prejudice
Hi girls, you can call me Venus, 24 years old. my problem is about my exboyfriend... actually we have no formal break up i just find out that he has a new girl when i search his facebook acct. and didn't break up with me... it was all started when i was 3rd year college. my bestfriend Krizzia and her boyfriend Arman has a friend named: Adonis. this guy became my textmate and chatmate on yahoo messenger for a long time. until we become lovers via internet only because he's a seaman. when i was in 4th year our relationship turns out to be cat-dog fight.... but were still together. until comes our ojt. my teacher seperated me and krizzia in our assign ojt places. krizzia assigned on rural while i was assign on the urban. until i was assign at women center inc.. there i meet one of my boss's nephew. this guy has a hidden desire for me until one day, that guy raped me.. i didn't tell my boyfriend that time. and i told my teacher to assign me on different area because that guy always threatened my life. he destroyed the trust of my family until i find out during feb. that i was 3 months preg. with that guy. i didn't told that guy because i was scared that he'll ruined my life again. my family confiscated my cellphone for 9 months until i gave birth to a baby boy. i was ready to reveal this to my exboyfriend only to find out that he has another girlfriend. i wanted to explain my side but he wouldn't listen. until now i still love him but i know there's no chance. please help i need advice thank you
Dear Venus,
Did you report the guy who raped you to the authorities? What he did to you is a crime punishable by law. But based on your story, it seemed to us that you didn't have the courage to do it. The fact that he managed to rape you and threaten your life means that he is a very dangerous guy. What if he comes back and ruin your life again? If that happens, consider the danger he will pose to you, your family, and your son. How do you even sleep soundly at night, we can't even imagine. It's just right to fear for your safety. What's wrong is not doing anything about it. Remember that it's never too late to straighten things out.
Maybe it's time to let go of your ex-boyfriend? Just what you said, he seems happy with his new found love. It's hard to move on and pick up the pieces, yes. But sometimes, it's better to close a certain chapter in your life to give way to new beginnings. It won't be easy at first but with the help of your son and your family who truly loves you, eventually, everything will be okay..=) ♥
Much Love,
The Girls
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Martes, Nobyembre 22, 2011
Hi Girls, I heard a lot of things about you,. Hope you will help me with my problem,. I am Alvin 21 years old currently studying in college. I have a girlfriend and she is my first girlfriend and I am his first boyfriend. My question is how can we make our relationship stronger??? Sometime we think of having sex but we are afraid of the consequences.
Dear Alvin,
Isn't 21 yrs. old a bit young for sex? Not to mention, you and your girlfriend are still in college. There are other amazing things that a couple can do to strengthen their relationship, like spending a lot of quality time together or bonding over the things that you both love doing. Better yet, why not become study buddies? Not only are you spending time together, you are also helping each other with your studies. All these activities can help your relationship grow and mature. Just remember to put LOVE and TRUST at the center of your relationship, and everything follows. And if truth be told, having sex at an early age doesn't strengthen a relationship, it can actually complicate things and make matters worse. It can potentially lead to the consequences that you are so afraid of happening. And these consequences require big responsibilities. And unless you're ready to face them, it's better that you think more than twice before moving forward. I hope The Girls' advice helps. Goodluck with your studies and may your relationship blossom as time goes by.=)
Much Love,
The Girls
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Isn't 21 yrs. old a bit young for sex? Not to mention, you and your girlfriend are still in college. There are other amazing things that a couple can do to strengthen their relationship, like spending a lot of quality time together or bonding over the things that you both love doing. Better yet, why not become study buddies? Not only are you spending time together, you are also helping each other with your studies. All these activities can help your relationship grow and mature. Just remember to put LOVE and TRUST at the center of your relationship, and everything follows. And if truth be told, having sex at an early age doesn't strengthen a relationship, it can actually complicate things and make matters worse. It can potentially lead to the consequences that you are so afraid of happening. And these consequences require big responsibilities. And unless you're ready to face them, it's better that you think more than twice before moving forward. I hope The Girls' advice helps. Goodluck with your studies and may your relationship blossom as time goes by.=)
Much Love,
The Girls
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Linggo, Nobyembre 20, 2011
Hi Girls! You can call me Sam. 26 yrs of age single. I am working as a call center representative. I have a workmate who had a crush on me and later on he start courting me. He gave me flowers, chocolates, cards, and a lot of gifts everyday. He is such a nice guy and i think i'm starting to fall for him too. On the night he asked me to go out for dinner, i am planning to answer him "YES".. I asked my friends for their advice, and they say;"go with someone who will make you happy"..That night was the happiest day of my life. As we went out to the mall to watch a movie, a kid approached him and say " daddy!",... I was shocked and trembling,.. I don't know what to do...I run fast as i could ...crying and deeply in pain,.. He is already a married man,with 2 kids,.. I felt betrayed..Helpless,..Please girls help me,..I don't know what to do,.. I am 1 month pregnant now,..
Dear Sam,
A very vulnerable girl with a loving heart. When we are young, parents always tell us that, "love waits it's precious time".What happened with the " Getting to know each other?" May I asked you this questions Sam, Did you meet his parents during your relationship? Did you know where he live?.. You are being blinded by wonderful things he build for you and realize in the end that it was all a lie. that was really hurt alright,..but you have to move on. BE STRONG! Never consider your baby a mistake because it's not.It is a blessing girl ..Sam,.. everything happens for a reason, he is not the right guy for you. All you have to do is take care of your self, talk to your family,..i'm sure they will understand you because no one in this world will understand you except your family. You baby will be your strength and the next thing you new,.. you are living your life without that guy.. God is guiding us no matter what. There are lots of beautiful things waiting for you and for your baby..Good Luck Sam.
Kisses,
The Girls
A very vulnerable girl with a loving heart. When we are young, parents always tell us that, "love waits it's precious time".What happened with the " Getting to know each other?" May I asked you this questions Sam, Did you meet his parents during your relationship? Did you know where he live?.. You are being blinded by wonderful things he build for you and realize in the end that it was all a lie. that was really hurt alright,..but you have to move on. BE STRONG! Never consider your baby a mistake because it's not.It is a blessing girl ..Sam,.. everything happens for a reason, he is not the right guy for you. All you have to do is take care of your self, talk to your family,..i'm sure they will understand you because no one in this world will understand you except your family. You baby will be your strength and the next thing you new,.. you are living your life without that guy.. God is guiding us no matter what. There are lots of beautiful things waiting for you and for your baby..Good Luck Sam.
Kisses,
The Girls
Miyerkules, Nobyembre 16, 2011
Hi im Susan 35 yrs old. In love with the guy 10 yrs old younger than me.. I got problem with the people around us. My friends and my family tell me that he is just using me because of my money. Please girls help me. I don’t know what to do.
Dear Susan,
You've heard this a million times before: "Age doesn't matter when it comes to love." And based on your story, you and your boyfriend are truly in love with each other; that his intentions are direct and pure. Though you can't blame your family for thinking that way. They just have your best interest at heart. They don't want you to fall for a guy who'll just use you for your money. Since that is not the case with your guy, why not let him prove his love for you with your family? You and your boyfriend should assure them that you chose the right guy. Why not set up a regular get together so they could socialize and be able to settle their differences? How about a barbecue party? Of course, don't expect them to be chummy chummy right away. Just be consistent with your little get-together. In time, they will come around..=)
Much Love,
The Girls
You've heard this a million times before: "Age doesn't matter when it comes to love." And based on your story, you and your boyfriend are truly in love with each other; that his intentions are direct and pure. Though you can't blame your family for thinking that way. They just have your best interest at heart. They don't want you to fall for a guy who'll just use you for your money. Since that is not the case with your guy, why not let him prove his love for you with your family? You and your boyfriend should assure them that you chose the right guy. Why not set up a regular get together so they could socialize and be able to settle their differences? How about a barbecue party? Of course, don't expect them to be chummy chummy right away. Just be consistent with your little get-together. In time, they will come around..=)
Much Love,
The Girls
Last week I was in a disco with my friends and I had one night stand with a girl name May. I always thought she is beautiful but I never really like her, I was really drunk that time and it just happened. After that night she always text and called me and I feel so annoyed. I never replied and answer her call. What should I do to stop her from bugging me?
Dear Justin,
The Girls don't want to be biased with you. But we think you're being unfair to May. We are not judging you with your actions with her. But you should understand that she's a woman. And as girls, we can totally relate to her. Most probably, right now she has millions of questions running through her mind. Why isn't he calling me? What did I do to get this treatment from him? Is there something wrong with me? Those questions will remain unanswered unless you do something about it. Instead of avoiding the issue at hand, why not deal with it? Go talk to her. Be a REAL gentleman and tell May that she seems nice but you're just not ready to enter a serious relationship. But NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE for what you did. The last thing a girl needs is a guy who wasn't really himself when he slept with her. Just gently lay it down to her. Be honest about your feelings but without intentionally hurting hers in the process. It will affect her, yes. But, at least, she knows the truth and won't expect anything from you. We hope this advice helps..=)
Much Love,
The Girls
The Girls don't want to be biased with you. But we think you're being unfair to May. We are not judging you with your actions with her. But you should understand that she's a woman. And as girls, we can totally relate to her. Most probably, right now she has millions of questions running through her mind. Why isn't he calling me? What did I do to get this treatment from him? Is there something wrong with me? Those questions will remain unanswered unless you do something about it. Instead of avoiding the issue at hand, why not deal with it? Go talk to her. Be a REAL gentleman and tell May that she seems nice but you're just not ready to enter a serious relationship. But NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE for what you did. The last thing a girl needs is a guy who wasn't really himself when he slept with her. Just gently lay it down to her. Be honest about your feelings but without intentionally hurting hers in the process. It will affect her, yes. But, at least, she knows the truth and won't expect anything from you. We hope this advice helps..=)
Much Love,
The Girls
Martes, Nobyembre 15, 2011
Hello the girls! I’m Thelma single working mom lives here in Philippines. I’m having a problem with my 2 boy kids with their studies. Even though I gave all their needs for them to study but they always get a failing grade in some particular subject. How can I motivate them to study? I got new friends in the job last year his name is Uri. We actually became friends. The chemistry between us is awesome. That time I have a boyfriend, then we split up because of this guy. The problem is he has a gf and also he love his gf so much but he has started to have a strong feelings for me. He doesn’t want to hurt his gf neither I. Please Im confused.. what should I do? Help me!
Hi Thelma,
Has anyone talked to you about your children having problem at school? Did you asked your kids the reasons why it happens to them? There are many things that you should consider before jumping into a conclusion. Providing them all the materials things they need doesn't mean everything's ok to them. As a mother, we know that you only want the best for them; you work hard for them, suddenly things like that happens (sighs).The best thing that you could do is talk to them. Maybe the reason why is because you don't have time for them, talking,eating together, playing and a lot of things that you forgot to do because your busy working. Or maybe while at school, their classmates keep on teasing them that they don't have a family. It's about time for you to think of your kids,..HELP them because they need you. Show them that you care, that you understand them, that you love them no matter what happens and you'll never gonna leave them. Don't let negative comments affect your kids.
Having a new inspiration means a lot! Maybe it is much better if you will think about it more seriously. You had experienced being loved and got hurt when he left you. There's nothing wrong with falling in love, but this time you have to be careful in choosing the right one. You said he has a gf and he doesn't want to hurt her maybe you were not meant for each other.. All you have to do is focus with your kids first, the love of your kids will be your inspiration in life. Love waits for those people who are worth waiting.
Has anyone talked to you about your children having problem at school? Did you asked your kids the reasons why it happens to them? There are many things that you should consider before jumping into a conclusion. Providing them all the materials things they need doesn't mean everything's ok to them. As a mother, we know that you only want the best for them; you work hard for them, suddenly things like that happens (sighs).The best thing that you could do is talk to them. Maybe the reason why is because you don't have time for them, talking,eating together, playing and a lot of things that you forgot to do because your busy working. Or maybe while at school, their classmates keep on teasing them that they don't have a family. It's about time for you to think of your kids,..HELP them because they need you. Show them that you care, that you understand them, that you love them no matter what happens and you'll never gonna leave them. Don't let negative comments affect your kids.
Having a new inspiration means a lot! Maybe it is much better if you will think about it more seriously. You had experienced being loved and got hurt when he left you. There's nothing wrong with falling in love, but this time you have to be careful in choosing the right one. You said he has a gf and he doesn't want to hurt her maybe you were not meant for each other.. All you have to do is focus with your kids first, the love of your kids will be your inspiration in life. Love waits for those people who are worth waiting.
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